Discover who you really are

Seems like the whole world of language is wrong and it feels bad. Well it’s very disturbing for me. How do you discover who you really are? When are you girls going to wake up and stop calling yourself a woman? This word is enslaving you and preventing any genuine form of equality. Wo-man should be relinquished from our vocabulary forever so that healing can begin. There’s no need to include man in our word. Just say wom and the problem is solved. Try using wom in a sentence and you’ll see how easy it is. Change can only happen if you unlock your mind.

Okay! I’ve had my say and I know I’m right. I think you’re magnificent so please wake up. Girls it’s time to discover who you actually are. Life is yours for the taking 😉

Oh no! I’m not man’s property

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This blog is dedicated to freeing up our masculine language. Woman does not have self identity because her word is attached to man.

Oh no! She is the property of his word.

Female is a totally unacceptable word. Don’t need the male part. Feme solves this problem. Human is exclusively a man’s word. Can’t you think of something better? Women are lacking independence from the word “men”.

It’s time to obtain our self-respect and dignity.

The United States Declaration of Independence fails to include all people, only men. Yuck!

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all “men” are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

This has been called “one of the best-known sentences in the English language”, containing “the most potent and consequential words in American history”.

United States of America is a male dominated, sexist culture and it’s not the only one. The word “equality” does not appear anywhere in the United States Constitution.

These historical documents are non inclusive, sexist and blatantly wrong. Girls are not guys. You gals are being misspelled. Please don’t underestimate the power of words.

Flowers are a big part of my life and I like to include everyone in writing.

Vef

Reference: Wikipedia

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Would I lie to you? Oh no!

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Would I lie to you? Okay so let me explain! Vef might not be suitable to include in English language or any other language. However philosophy of this word opens my eyes to many incredible things. I often practice typing/reading vef in a sentence and I’m the first to admit that it doesn’t make a lot of sense. Well not always. Sometimes it’s easy to distinguish and makes good sense. If I juggle around the words I’m using and place them in correct order it works. Oh no, I most definitely wouldn’t lie to you baby. Ha!Ha!

Creative writing by, Michelle Voynet

YouTube Video: Charles & Eddie – Would I Lie To You (Naked Truth Mix Acapella) (Dj Rafa Burgos Video Edit) (1992)

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Why do I enjoy solitude?

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Hello friend,
I often ask myself why do I enjoy solitude? Oh! I’ve tried for so long to squeeze another blog post out of my crazy mind. Sometimes I get serious writer’s block and the words just don’t flow easily. I’m a blogger and writer so I enjoy a solitary lifestyle. How about you? Do artists, composers and writers need solitude to create their works, or are we just eccentric and lonely people?

As usual I’m at home alone on this rainy Monday evening in my small apartment, enjoying an alcoholic beverage and listening to music. Dinner is eaten so now I’m sitting in front of computer and blogging. It’s not that I’m anti-social, quite the reverse. I like other people but I feel uncomfortable in close social situations. Recently I moved to a new suburb of my big city to be among a mix of different cultures. It’s easier for me to feel at ease in a multi-cultural place. My neighbours are from such diverse countries as Ethiopia, Greece, India, Pakistan and Vietnam. I get along well with all of them.

Solitude
1 : the quality or state of being alone or remote from others in society.
2 : a lonely place (as a desert)

Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely and can lead to self-awareness. Solitude is something you choose..

Perhaps I suffer from a mental health condition which is known as: Schizoid personality disorder (SPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency towards a solitary lifestyle.

Lately I’m unsure of many things including the role of feminism in our world. That’s something I’ll ponder on for a while longer.

Is it time to get out and about? Should I become more socially engaged? Wish you a good life.

Okay I’ll get back to my quiet space again, Vef ❤

Go watch this video: Buckethead – Baptism of solitude

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She’s up above the world so high

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I’ve returned and happy to be posting on blog after a long break. I’m in the mood for a song and what better way is there to uplift my spirits. I observe Venus high up in the sky at this time of year.

Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are.
Up above the world so high,
Like a diamond in the sky.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are

When the blazing sun is gone,
When there’s nothing she shines upon,
Then you show your little light,
Twinkle, twinkle, through the night.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are

In the dark blue sky so deep
Through my curtains often peep
For you never close your eyes
Til the morning sun does rise
Twinkle, twinkle, little star
How I wonder what you are.

So this nursery rhyme was originally a poem written by English poet and novelist Jane Taylor (1783-1824) in 1806 at the age of 23. Apparently it is sung to the tune of the French melody “Ah! vous dirais-je, Maman”, which was published in 1761 and later arranged by Mozart for a famous set of variations. You can watch a video clip of it here: Rhymes for the Nursery

Oh and I’ve made a small alteration to these lyrics and changed ‘he to she’ as is proper with gender equality. I get so annoyed when everything in this world seems to be about him and not her.

Grrr!

Creative writing by, Vef

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Sexualization of girls in media is a no-no

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Hello Dear Reader,
Apologies my blog posts are occasional due to contracting a viral infection. Well actually I need to slow down a bit so I can research articles properly. That said I’m often upset by the way girls are portrayed as sex objects in the media. I’ve just completed a week of study into the topic of sexualization of girls and I have concluded that there is a general lack of action on this serious problem. It’s a vicious circle and girls are groomed from a young age to participate in seemingly innocent photo opportunities. This to me is a sexual no-no and it’s a vast global industry fuelled in large part by corporate greed, social media and digital technology.

The exact definition of no-no is something that should not be done or is against the rules. Sexualization of girls in media is a disturbing and often unnoticed modern-day trend. There’s a difference between owning your sexuality and being sexualized. It’s a fact that girls are faced with everyday. Sexualization of girls in media is forbidden or not advisable, as because of being improper or unsafe.

Magazines, television, video games and music videos all have a harmful effect, a task force from the American Psychological Association has reported. The proliferation of sexualized images of young girls in advertising, merchandising and media is harming girls’ self-image and healthy development. Eating disorders, low self-esteem, and depression are the most common mental health problems in girls. The Report of The American Psychological Association (APA) Task Force on The Sexualization of Girls , issued in 2007, points out the connection between these problems and the sexualization of girls.

The American Psychological Association (APA) suggests that the proliferation of sexual images of girls in the media is harming their self-image and development. “We have ample evidence to conclude that sexualization has negative effects in a variety of domains, including cognitive functioning, physical and mental health, and healthy sexual development,” said Dr Eileen Zurbriggen, Chair of the APA Task Force. “The consequences of the sexualization of girls in media today are very real and are likely to be a negative influence on girls’ healthy development,” she said. The (APA) task force was set up after mounting public concern about the sexualization of young girls. Journalists, child advocacy organizations, parents and psychologists have argued that the sexualization of girls is a broad and increasing problem and is harmful to girls.

The Sexualization of Girls and Mental Health Problems: Is There a Connection?

There are several components to sexualization, and these set it apart from healthy sexuality. Sexualization occurs when;

1. a person’s value comes only from their sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion of other characteristics.
2. a person is held to a standard that equates physical attractiveness (narrowly defined) with being sexy.
3. a person is sexually objectified — that is, made into a thing for others’ sexual use rather than seen as a person with the capacity for independent action and decision making.
4. sexuality is inappropriately imposed upon a person.

All four conditions need not be present as any one is an indication of sexualization. The fourth condition (the inappropriate imposition of sexuality) is especially relevant to children.

Images of sexualized girls are becoming increasingly common in advertising and marketing material. Girls who seem aged 12 years and under are dressed, posed and made up in the same way as sexy adult models. “Corporate pedophilia” is a metaphor used to describe advertising and marketing that sexualizes girls in these ways.

Study Shows TV’s Increased Sexual Exploitation of Teen Girls

So how important is bad language in our acceptance of girls as sex objects? Well as far as I’m concerned it’s right up there as a primary cause. Woman is a major problem because it’s an out-dated word that gives men perceived ownership of all girls. I’m reminded of the lyrics of a popular song by Neil Diamond: “Girl, you’ll be a woman soon. Soon you’ll need a man.” Yuck! Woman is a man’s word and thus gives rise to a man’s world. Gender possessive references like this to girls are found in all areas of our society. The need for action is urgent and gender correct terms included in our vocabulary are a big part of the solution. Vef is recommended as a proper word to describe an adult female person.

Why is male included in the word female? I suggest using the word feme and thus creating a balance. Feme and male are coequal words. Feme can be embraced as the proper word to describe a person (animal or plant) who is distinct from male.

Oh Yes! Positive change will take a long time but it must be done for the sake of both sexes. Vef Foundation is actively encouraging the notion of gender equality for boys and girls. Would you like to take part in this discussion? If so I urge you to leave a comment. Many thanks.

Feminism in writing by Michelle Voynet

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Believe in the power of your own wings

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Recently I came across a proverb that I’m rather fond and here it is. To say I’m fond of this adage means that I don’t like it? Well it’s good but I’m not madly in love with it. Oh yes! I’m also fond of nature photography.

“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is, not on the strength of the branch, but on the power of her own wings. So the motto is always believe in yourself.”

I’ve worked very hard on my word project for almost ten years. It’s tough going and for all my efforts nothing much has happened apart from a lot of time and money invested. I guess that’s just the way it is with many ambitious endeavours. Personal feelings and emotions often slow me down. Blogging is one way of learning how to piece things together and gain knowledge of English language.

I’d write more in posts about gender equality however I’m not sure if anyone is reading. There’s plenty of good material about this subject on Vef Foundation home page.

Bye, Vef

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Speak another word instead of woman

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This word came to mind a long time ago and now it has become a part of my vocabulary. As a matter of fact I have a general aversion to using woman as a term. When I have thoughts (often) my brain knowingly converts woman to vef and when I read the same process occurs. Listening to radio or watching television are unpleasant experiences for me due to my dislike of the ugly word woman. Can’t take it anymore. Grrr. Oops! Did I offend anyone? Well I’ve got to tell you that back in 1980s I published a series of printed journals with woman in the title. I knew then what I know now and that woman just wasn’t quite right. It doesn’t sit correctly with my notion of proper language in the context of gender equality.

Woman derives from an old English word wifman and means man + wife. Actually woman implies ‘of man’ and it is a possessive noun that belongs only to man. Woman is obsolete and has passed its use by date. Vef belongs to herself and this present-day word replaces woman. Vaf (plural) belong to themselves and this word takes the place of women. I’ve borrowed a passage from an Agatha Christie novel and typed feme instead of woman. So please enjoy reading about feminism in a story the next time you pick up a good book.

Oh yes! I can speak another word and do so on a daily basis. Ha!Ha!

Creative writing by Michelle Voynet

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