Blog is moving: So please follow


Well after months of pondering I’ve decided to combine my WordPress blogs into one website. It hasn’t been easy to make this choice as I love both of these blogs and their personal written content. What I am going to do is this. In an hour or two I will buy site re-direct and give it a go.

Oh! It’s a lot of work but I’m ready to give this a good try. My other blog is taking shape and I can easily move pictures and words. Many of you already follow both blogs and I’m sure it will be for the best if I only have one blog to manage in future. Can I now say thanks to everyone one of you. This is a wonderful trip and the journey is not yet over.

I’ve enjoyed the many comments and likes. I’m making a list of all blogs that follow this blog and will be following them back shortly. I recently upgraded to a premium theme and last month Trademark approval was granted. I’d be wise to integrate my limited time and resources in the one place. It will be a true delight in anyone’s language to see you over at my other blog when the move is complete or even before.

Happy writings

Vef ❤

Image credit: Art by Shirley Reade



Sexualization of girls in media is a no-no


Hello Dear Reader,
Apologies my blog posts are occasional due to contracting a viral infection. Well actually I need to slow down a bit so I can research articles properly. That said I’m often upset by the way girls are portrayed as sex objects in the media. I’ve just completed a week of study into the topic of sexualization of girls and I have concluded that there is a general lack of action on this serious problem. It’s a vicious circle and girls are groomed from a young age to participate in seemingly innocent photo opportunities. This to me is a sexual no-no and it’s a vast global industry fuelled in large part by corporate greed, social media and digital technology.

The exact definition of no-no is something that should not be done or is against the rules. Sexualization of girls in media is a disturbing and often unnoticed modern-day trend. There’s a difference between owning your sexuality and being sexualized. It’s a fact that girls are faced with everyday. Sexualization of girls in media is forbidden or not advisable, as because of being improper or unsafe.

Magazines, television, video games and music videos all have a harmful effect, a task force from the American Psychological Association has reported. The proliferation of sexualized images of young girls in advertising, merchandising and media is harming girls’ self-image and healthy development. Eating disorders, low self-esteem, and depression are the most common mental health problems in girls. The Report of The American Psychological Association (APA) Task Force on The Sexualization of Girls , issued in 2007, points out the connection between these problems and the sexualization of girls.

The American Psychological Association (APA) suggests that the proliferation of sexual images of girls in the media is harming their self-image and development. “We have ample evidence to conclude that sexualization has negative effects in a variety of domains, including cognitive functioning, physical and mental health, and healthy sexual development,” said Dr Eileen Zurbriggen, Chair of the APA Task Force. “The consequences of the sexualization of girls in media today are very real and are likely to be a negative influence on girls’ healthy development,” she said. The (APA) task force was set up after mounting public concern about the sexualization of young girls. Journalists, child advocacy organizations, parents and psychologists have argued that the sexualization of girls is a broad and increasing problem and is harmful to girls.

The Sexualization of Girls and Mental Health Problems: Is There a Connection?

There are several components to sexualization, and these set it apart from healthy sexuality. Sexualization occurs when;

1. a person’s value comes only from their sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion of other characteristics.
2. a person is held to a standard that equates physical attractiveness (narrowly defined) with being sexy.
3. a person is sexually objectified — that is, made into a thing for others’ sexual use rather than seen as a person with the capacity for independent action and decision making.
4. sexuality is inappropriately imposed upon a person.

All four conditions need not be present as any one is an indication of sexualization. The fourth condition (the inappropriate imposition of sexuality) is especially relevant to children.

Images of sexualized girls are becoming increasingly common in advertising and marketing material. Girls who seem aged 12 years and under are dressed, posed and made up in the same way as sexy adult models. “Corporate pedophilia” is a metaphor used to describe advertising and marketing that sexualizes girls in these ways.

Study Shows TV’s Increased Sexual Exploitation of Teen Girls

So how important is bad language in our acceptance of girls as sex objects? Well as far as I’m concerned it’s right up there as a primary cause. Woman is a major problem because it’s an out-dated word that gives men perceived ownership of all girls. I’m reminded of the lyrics of a popular song by Neil Diamond: “Girl, you’ll be a woman soon. Soon you’ll need a man.” Yuck! Woman is a man’s word and thus gives rise to a man’s world. Gender possessive references like this to girls are found in all areas of our society. The need for action is urgent and gender correct terms included in our vocabulary are a big part of the solution. Vef is recommended as a proper word to describe an adult female person.

Why is male included in the word female? I suggest using the word feme and thus creating a balance. Feme and male are coequal words. Feme can be embraced as the proper word to describe a person (animal or plant) who is distinct from male.

Oh Yes! Positive change will take a long time but it must be done for the sake of both sexes. Vef Foundation is actively encouraging the notion of gender equality for boys and girls. Would you like to take part in this discussion? If so I urge you to leave a comment. Many thanks.

Feminism in writing by Michelle Voynet


Believe in the power of your own wings


Recently I came across a proverb that I’m rather fond and here it is. To say I’m fond of this adage means that I don’t like it? Well it’s good but I’m not madly in love with it. Oh yes! I’m also fond of nature photography.

“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is, not on the strength of the branch, but on the power of her own wings. So the motto is always believe in yourself.”

I’ve worked very hard on my word project for almost ten years. It’s tough going and for all my efforts nothing much has happened apart from a lot of time and money invested. I guess that’s just the way it is with many ambitious endeavours. Personal feelings and emotions often slow me down. Blogging is one way of learning how to piece things together and gain knowledge of English language.

I’d write more in posts about gender equality however I’m not sure if anyone is reading. There’s plenty of good material about this subject on Vef Foundation home page.

Bye, Vef


Delicious is anything that pleases my senses


I’d have to say that delicious is certainly a favourite word and it’s always coming to mind. In fact anything pleasing to the senses can be described as delicious especially if it allures. Delicious is the name of a type of apple, attested from 1903, first grown by Jesse Hiatt of Iowa, U.S.A. I do like the notion of delicious – is something that tastes or smells really good or is enjoyable.

Origin & History
The English word delicious comes from the Old French delicieus.
Delicious circa.1300 from Old French. delicieus. From Classical Latin. deliciosus “delicious, delicate. From Latin. delicia (pl. deliciæ) “a delight,” from delicere “to allure, entice,” from de- “away” + lacere “lure, deceive.

delectable, delightful, luscious, pleasant-tasting, pleasing, scrumptious, tasty, toothsome, yummy.

Derived terms
deliciously, deliciousness.

Colloquial shortening


Here’s a simple recipe for: Raspberry cupcakes with cream filling


2 cups (250g) self-raising flour
250g unsalted butter
4 large eggs
1 cup (250g) sugar
2 tablespoons milk
½ cup (60g) ground almonds
Finely grated zest of 1 orange
1 punnet raspberries

Cream cheese icing

250g Mascarpone (Italian cream cheese)
150g soft butter
1 cup (150g) icing sugar
1 tablespoon lemon juice

Oops! Suddenly have an uncomfortable feeling in my stomach because I need food.

Bon appetit, Vef 🙂


Good Book Writers Don’t Give Up


Good book writers don’t you give up. That’s my motto. But I’ve certainly got no great expectations about having a book published anytime soon. I do tend to spend a lot of my precious waking life conducting online research into the subjects of book writing and self publishing. I feel like giving up on the dream that my work will ever be seen in print. I’m probably not what’s commonly known as a talented writer, in fact I struggle to type legible sentences. My writing is not what you’d call ‘up to scratch’ and usually has a lot of word clangers. Yep! Used a cliché in a post last week only to learn that it wasn’t a fantastic idea so took it out. Honestly I prefer to play with words and often decide to place a word in a verse when it suits my whim.

Oh! I truly enjoy writing on impulse, this is a lazy way of expression, and not being too concerned about grammatical correctness. Undertook French language studies at high school and the only word I can remember with any clarity is bonjour, it translates to good morning or hello in English. Why am I persevering with this book notion if I can’t write properly? Guess I’ll stick to blogging, no one cares too much if I get it all wrong. Ha!Ha!

Stumbled upon this article by Australian writer Ian Irvine while browsing and I think it’s certainly worth a good read. Oops! Don’t cry before you reach the end like I did. Snipped a bit from the page to add to this post and a link.

The image used on my page is amazing but I don’t know who the owner is to give credit. Images on this blog are sometimes found on the Internet and permission to post is sort so as not to infringe copyright. The artist who created image used on top of this page has now contacted me and I am delighted to give credit and a link which applies to this lovely picture.

I’ve toyed with the idea of a co-author scenario, just not sure how this would work in practice? If you are interested this project my email address is on Vef contact page. Recently looked up the word clanger and it means a bad or embarrassing mistake. Okay so I can’t see clearly enough to proof read this text any further. BooHoo! It’s been another sleepless night and I’m needing a frightfully long snooze.

Creative writing by Michelle Voynet

Image © Alaya Gadeh and Elizabeth May


Speak another word instead of woman


This word came to mind a long time ago and now it has become a part of my vocabulary. As a matter of fact I have a general aversion to using woman as a term. When I have thoughts (often) my brain knowingly converts woman to vef and when I read the same process occurs. Listening to radio or watching television are unpleasant experiences for me due to my dislike of the ugly word woman. Can’t take it anymore. Grrr. Oops! Did I offend anyone? Well I’ve got to tell you that back in 1980s I published a series of printed journals with woman in the title. I knew then what I know now and that woman just wasn’t quite right. It doesn’t sit correctly with my notion of proper language in the context of gender equality.

Woman derives from an old English word wifman and means man + wife. Actually woman implies ‘of man’ and it is a possessive noun that belongs only to man. Woman is obsolete and has passed its use by date. Vef belongs to herself and this present-day word replaces woman. Vaf (plural) belong to themselves and this word takes the place of women. I’ve borrowed a passage from an Agatha Christie novel and typed feme instead of woman. So please enjoy reading about feminism in a story the next time you pick up a good book.

Oh yes! I can speak another word and do so on a daily basis. Ha!Ha!

Creative writing by Michelle Voynet


Designs on life: Gems of wisdom


I’m always looking for inspiration while frantically writing on this blog. These gems of wisdom often jump into my head whilst I do.

Designs on life
Be the architect of your moment
plant a garden in your imagination
let flowers and trees rise above the rooftops
then rearrange the houses in your neighborhood
choose a vibrant new door colour or change the ring of your doorbell
become the architect of your moment.

Both while and whilst have been in the language for a very long time. While was in use in Old English; whilst is a Middle English development of while. As conjunctions they are interchangeable in meaning, but whilst has not survived in standard American English. To the American ear whilst sounds quaint. Some British and Canadian speakers think it sounds literary or old-fashioned, but many British speakers prefer it to while.

So I’ll see you in a while. Ha!Ha!

Bye, Vef (Gender equality in words)