Wish to express my gratitude

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I’m sitting quietly at home on a pleasant morning and thoughts are of lovely friends. I commenced this blog twenty-one months ago and wish to express my gratitude. I’ve received so much joy from being part of the WordPress community. Oh! It hasn’t been without occasional frustration but still an adventure worth embarking upon.

Gender equality is a subject I’m passionate about and I will continue to research and write for years to come. Don’t think I’ll ever run out of ideas for new articles. Vef can seem like an absurd word however it has expanded my knowledge of language.

This week I’ve completed moving from one WordPress account to another. I know everything on page looks the same but underneath it’s all different. The only noticeable change is missing likes on posts as they don’t migrate when a blog is moved. During this process I had lots of help from happiness engineers. It’s complicated and I’d much rather write poetry than learn computer code. I’ll get busy on a poem tomorrow.

I’d like to thank followers who continue to encourage me to keep going with my book. I smile within at every comment on Vef’s posts. I’ve met some beautiful people during my online time here @ WP.com

So overall it’s an amazing creative writing experience.

Thanks for reading .. Haha!

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Song lyrics to melt a girl’s heart

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I’m giving a lot of thought to the issue of social justice and how it relates to gender equality. Girls are a long way behind boys in some countries. In fact many girls never go to school or earn a descent living. Can a gorgeous word ~ Vef ~ put them in front or not?

Perhaps I’m overly infatuated with the letter f .. Haha! I write and post articles on this blog to educate myself about how language can help solve the problem. I’m always reading books and finding unusual words.

So it’s wee small hours of the night and I’ve been hard at work trying to get everything organized before going to sleep. Listening to music is one of my greatest pleasures and I often dig out old classics. Wow! These song lyrics by The Cranberries are sure to melt a girl’s heart and they go like this.

Linger

If you, if you could return, don’t let it burn, don’t let it fade.

I’m sure I’m not being rude, but it’s just your attitude,
It’s tearing me apart, It’s ruining everything.

I swore, I swore I would be true, and honey, so did you.
So why were you holding her hand? Is that the way we stand?
Were you lying all the time? Was it just a game to you?

But I’m in so deep. You know I’m such a fool for you.
You got me wrapped around your finger, ah, ha, ha.
Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to,
Do you have to let it linger?

Oh, I thought the world of you.
I thought nothing could go wrong,
But I was wrong. I was wrong.
If you, if you could get by, trying not to lie,
Things wouldn’t be so confused and I wouldn’t feel so used,
But you always really knew, I just wanna be with you.

But I’m in so deep. You know I’m such a fool for you.
You got me wrapped around your finger, ah, ha, ha.
Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to,
Do you have to let it linger?

You know I’m such a fool for you.
You got me wrapped around your finger, ah, ha, ha.
Do you have to let it linger? Do you have to, do you have to,
Do you have to let it linger?

Song is from the Album – Everybody else is doing it so why can’t we (1992).

Okay! Creative writing by, Vef

YouTube video: The Cranberries – Linger

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She’s up above the world so high

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I’ve returned and happy to be posting on blog after a long break. I’m in the mood for a song and what better way is there to uplift my spirits. I observe Venus high up in the sky at this time of year.

Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are.
Up above the world so high,
Like a diamond in the sky.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are

When the blazing sun is gone,
When there’s nothing she shines upon,
Then you show your little light,
Twinkle, twinkle, through the night.
Twinkle, twinkle, little star,
How I wonder what you are

In the dark blue sky so deep
Through my curtains often peep
For you never close your eyes
Til the morning sun does rise
Twinkle, twinkle, little star
How I wonder what you are.

So this nursery rhyme was originally a poem written by English poet and novelist Jane Taylor (1783-1824) in 1806 at the age of 23. Apparently it is sung to the tune of the French melody “Ah! vous dirais-je, Maman”, which was published in 1761 and later arranged by Mozart for a famous set of variations. You can watch a video clip of it here: Rhymes for the Nursery

Oh and I’ve made a small alteration to these lyrics and changed ‘he to she’ as is proper with gender equality. I get so annoyed when everything in this world seems to be about him and not her.

Grrr!

Creative writing by, Vef

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Sexualization of girls in media is a no-no

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Hello Dear Reader,
Apologies my blog posts are occasional due to contracting a viral infection. Well actually I need to slow down a bit so I can research articles properly. That said I’m often upset by the way girls are portrayed as sex objects in the media. I’ve just completed a week of study into the topic of sexualization of girls and I have concluded that there is a general lack of action on this serious problem. It’s a vicious circle and girls are groomed from a young age to participate in seemingly innocent photo opportunities. This to me is a sexual no-no and it’s a vast global industry fuelled in large part by corporate greed, social media and digital technology.

The exact definition of no-no is something that should not be done or is against the rules. Sexualization of girls in media is a disturbing and often unnoticed modern-day trend. There’s a difference between owning your sexuality and being sexualized. It’s a fact that girls are faced with everyday. Sexualization of girls in media is forbidden or not advisable, as because of being improper or unsafe.

Magazines, television, video games and music videos all have a harmful effect, a task force from the American Psychological Association has reported. The proliferation of sexualized images of young girls in advertising, merchandising and media is harming girls’ self-image and healthy development. Eating disorders, low self-esteem, and depression are the most common mental health problems in girls. The Report of The American Psychological Association (APA) Task Force on The Sexualization of Girls , issued in 2007, points out the connection between these problems and the sexualization of girls.

The American Psychological Association (APA) suggests that the proliferation of sexual images of girls in the media is harming their self-image and development. “We have ample evidence to conclude that sexualization has negative effects in a variety of domains, including cognitive functioning, physical and mental health, and healthy sexual development,” said Dr Eileen Zurbriggen, Chair of the APA Task Force. “The consequences of the sexualization of girls in media today are very real and are likely to be a negative influence on girls’ healthy development,” she said. The (APA) task force was set up after mounting public concern about the sexualization of young girls. Journalists, child advocacy organizations, parents and psychologists have argued that the sexualization of girls is a broad and increasing problem and is harmful to girls.

The Sexualization of Girls and Mental Health Problems: Is There a Connection?

There are several components to sexualization, and these set it apart from healthy sexuality. Sexualization occurs when;

1. a person’s value comes only from their sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion of other characteristics.
2. a person is held to a standard that equates physical attractiveness (narrowly defined) with being sexy.
3. a person is sexually objectified — that is, made into a thing for others’ sexual use rather than seen as a person with the capacity for independent action and decision making.
4. sexuality is inappropriately imposed upon a person.

All four conditions need not be present as any one is an indication of sexualization. The fourth condition (the inappropriate imposition of sexuality) is especially relevant to children.

Images of sexualized girls are becoming increasingly common in advertising and marketing material. Girls who seem aged 12 years and under are dressed, posed and made up in the same way as sexy adult models. “Corporate pedophilia” is a metaphor used to describe advertising and marketing that sexualizes girls in these ways.

Study Shows TV’s Increased Sexual Exploitation of Teen Girls

So how important is bad language in our acceptance of girls as sex objects? Well as far as I’m concerned it’s right up there as a primary cause. Woman is a major problem because it’s an out-dated word that gives men perceived ownership of all girls. I’m reminded of the lyrics of a popular song by Neil Diamond: “Girl, you’ll be a woman soon. Soon you’ll need a man.” Yuck! Woman is a man’s word and thus gives rise to a man’s world. Gender possessive references like this to girls are found in all areas of our society. The need for action is urgent and gender correct terms included in our vocabulary are a big part of the solution. Vef is recommended as a proper word to describe an adult female person.

Why is male included in the word female? I suggest using the word feme and thus creating a balance. Feme and male are coequal words. Feme can be embraced as the proper word to describe a person (animal or plant) who is distinct from male.

Oh Yes! Positive change will take a long time but it must be done for the sake of both sexes. Vef Foundation is actively encouraging the notion of gender equality for boys and girls. Would you like to take part in this discussion? If so I urge you to leave a comment. Many thanks.

Feminism in writing by Michelle Voynet

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Believe in the power of your own wings

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Recently I came across a proverb that I’m rather fond and here it is. To say I’m fond of this adage means that I don’t like it? Well it’s good but I’m not madly in love with it. Oh yes! I’m also fond of nature photography.

“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking because her trust is, not on the strength of the branch, but on the power of her own wings. So the motto is always believe in yourself.”

I’ve worked very hard on my word project for almost ten years. It’s tough going and for all my efforts nothing much has happened apart from a lot of time and money invested. I guess that’s just the way it is with many ambitious endeavours. Personal feelings and emotions often slow me down. Blogging is one way of learning how to piece things together and gain knowledge of English language.

I’d write more in posts about gender equality however I’m not sure if anyone is reading. There’s plenty of good material about this subject on Vef Foundation home page.

Bye, Vef

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Designs on life: Gems of wisdom

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I’m always looking for inspiration while frantically writing on this blog. These gems of wisdom often jump into my head whilst I do.

Designs on life
Be the architect of your moment
plant a garden in your imagination
let flowers and trees rise above the rooftops
then rearrange the houses in your neighborhood
choose a vibrant new door colour or change the ring of your doorbell
become the architect of your moment.

Both while and whilst have been in the language for a very long time. While was in use in Old English; whilst is a Middle English development of while. As conjunctions they are interchangeable in meaning, but whilst has not survived in standard American English. To the American ear whilst sounds quaint. Some British and Canadian speakers think it sounds literary or old-fashioned, but many British speakers prefer it to while.

So I’ll see you in a while. Ha!Ha!

Bye, Vef (Gender equality in words)

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Necromancy – it’s time for bed

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Some words have an unusual attraction, which I find intriguing – necromancy is one of these words.

The blackest of all the black arts is undoubtedly necromancy, the ancient method of communication with the dead. The art of raising the dead and controlling their spirits takes its name from Greek words meaning “dead body” and “prophecy or divination”. A ceremony is performed by a magician to evoke the dead who needs to obtain the help of powerful spirits, both for her/his own protection and to compel the corpse or ghost to submit to his/her will. Scent and odours must be carefully produced from burning substances for their powerful influences. Elaborate preparations include careful study of the positions of the planets, and especially of the moon and the influence of Saturn.

You may notice my use of her/his .. and that’s the whole reason for posting. Gender equality starts with getting our vocabulary right. Vef is a word that provides the perfect solution for solving the nagging issue of gender equality. Okay, let’s get back to necromancy.

Early necromancy was related to – and most likely evolved from – shamanism, which calls upon spirits such as the ghosts of ancestors. Classical necromancers addressed the dead in “a mixture of high-pitch squeaking and low droning”, comparable to the trance-state mutterings of shamans.

I came across this short poem written by Emily Dickinson

Ah! necromancy sweet.
Ah! wizard erudite.
Teach me the skill,

That I in still the pain
Surgeons assuage in vain,
Nor herb of all the plain
Can heal.

Emily Dickinson was a poet who took definition as her province, she challenged the existing definitions of poetry and the poet’s work. Like writers such as Ralph Waldo Emerson, Henry David Thoreau, and Walt Whitman, she experimented with expression in order to free it from conventional restraints. Like writers such as Charlotte Brontë and Elizabeth Barrett Browning, she crafted a new type of persona for the first person.

So what is the definition of necromancy?
1. Conjuration of the spirits of the dead for purposes of magically revealing the future or influencing the course of events.
2. Magic in general, especially that practiced by a witch or sorcerer; sorcery; witchcraft.

What are the superstitions?
In the conjuring of the souls of the dead, necromancy seemed to offer human beings a means of exerting control over an uncertain world

Someone posted a comment on another blog.
I woke up with this word necromancy going over and over in my head. I wrote it out on a piece of paper while I was still half asleep. What does this mean?

Okay! It’s time for bed. Goodnight..

Vef

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Why does Google punish?

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I’m angry because doctor Google is making my blogging life a misery. It seems the more I try to do the right thing and improve this WP blog, Google punishes.

I’ll give you an example. Recently I learned that my pictures are titled incorrectly or not given word titles at all. So like a good little bee I decided to get busy and fix them with descriptive titles and replace the old ones. Just using the same images with new titles. Every time I did this my blog slides down a long way in Google searches. Oh no! Not just a few places but more like a couple of pages.

That’s one example and here’s another. I’ve gone over all my old posts to tidy them up with fresh text and checking for broken links. So being fastidious I also checked grammar and punctuation just to get it right. Oops! Same thing again – blog drops in Google search.

What am I supposed to do? Making changes to Vef’s blog seems to be a no-no with Google. Yet I would have thought the opposite. I’d like to attract visitors and having appealing pages is one way of doing this. Perhaps not?

Bing and Yahoo have always had way better search results for this blog. So what’s the deal with Google? Why does Google continue to punish good behaviour?

I really should be getting on with the job of writing nice things about gender equality and finding pictures to post. However I’m spending hours and hours every day struggling with these annoying Google issues. Incidentally, most of the images used on this blog are taken from the Internet and where possible credit is given to author. I try to avoid infringing anyone’s copyright.

Just typed my blog name twice in quick succession because Google says it likes it this way. Keywords and all that stuff. Ha!Ha!

Okay! I get the hint. Google hates my blog. Yes! I’m upset.

Writing by Vef 🙂

Need help? Click on link: Google ranking factors

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