Discover who you really are

Seems like the whole world of language is wrong and it feels bad. Well it’s very disturbing for me. How do you discover who you really are? When are you girls going to wake up and stop calling yourself a woman? This word is enslaving you and preventing any genuine form of equality. Wo-man should be relinquished from our vocabulary forever so that healing can begin. There’s no need to include man in our word. Just say wom and the problem is solved. Try using wom in a sentence and you’ll see how easy it is. Change can only happen if you unlock your mind.

Okay! I’ve had my say and I know I’m right. I think you’re magnificent so please wake up. Girls it’s time to discover who you actually are. Life is yours for the taking 😉


Oh no! I’m not man’s property


This blog is dedicated to freeing up our masculine language. Woman does not have self identity because her word is attached to man.

Oh no! She is the property of his word.

Female is a totally unacceptable word. Don’t need the male part. Feme solves this problem. Human is exclusively a man’s word. Can’t you think of something better? Women are lacking independence from the word “men”.

It’s time to obtain our self-respect and dignity.

The United States Declaration of Independence fails to include all people, only men. Yuck!

We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all “men” are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

This has been called “one of the best-known sentences in the English language”, containing “the most potent and consequential words in American history”.

United States of America is a male dominated, sexist culture and it’s not the only one. The word “equality” does not appear anywhere in the United States Constitution.

These historical documents are non inclusive, sexist and blatantly wrong. Girls are not guys. You gals are being misspelled. Please don’t underestimate the power of words.

Flowers are a big part of my life and I like to include everyone in writing.


Reference: Wikipedia


Why do I enjoy solitude?


Hello friend,
I often ask myself why do I enjoy solitude? Oh! I’ve tried for so long to squeeze another blog post out of my crazy mind. Sometimes I get serious writer’s block and the words just don’t flow easily. I’m a blogger and writer so I enjoy a solitary lifestyle. How about you? Do artists, composers and writers need solitude to create their works, or are we just eccentric and lonely people?

As usual I’m at home alone on this rainy Monday evening in my small apartment, enjoying an alcoholic beverage and listening to music. Dinner is eaten so now I’m sitting in front of computer and blogging. It’s not that I’m anti-social, quite the reverse. I like other people but I feel uncomfortable in close social situations. Recently I moved to a new suburb of my big city to be among a mix of different cultures. It’s easier for me to feel at ease in a multi-cultural place. My neighbours are from such diverse countries as Ethiopia, Greece, India, Pakistan and Vietnam. I get along well with all of them.

1 : the quality or state of being alone or remote from others in society.
2 : a lonely place (as a desert)

Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely and can lead to self-awareness. Solitude is something you choose..

Perhaps I suffer from a mental health condition which is known as: Schizoid personality disorder (SPD) is a personality disorder characterized by a lack of interest in social relationships, a tendency towards a solitary lifestyle.

Lately I’m unsure of many things including the role of feminism in our world. That’s something I’ll ponder on for a while longer.

Is it time to get out and about? Should I become more socially engaged? Wish you a good life.

Okay I’ll get back to my quiet space again, Vef ❤

Go watch this video: Buckethead – Baptism of solitude


Good Book Writers Don’t Give Up


Good book writers don’t you give up. That’s my motto. But I’ve certainly got no great expectations about having a book published anytime soon. I do tend to spend a lot of my precious waking life conducting online research into the subjects of book writing and self publishing. I feel like giving up on the dream that my work will ever be seen in print. I’m probably not what’s commonly known as a talented writer, in fact I struggle to type legible sentences. My writing is not what you’d call ‘up to scratch’ and usually has a lot of word clangers. Yep! Used a cliché in a post last week only to learn that it wasn’t a fantastic idea so took it out. Honestly I prefer to play with words and often decide to place a word in a verse when it suits my whim.

Oh! I truly enjoy writing on impulse, this is a lazy way of expression, and not being too concerned about grammatical correctness. Undertook French language studies at high school and the only word I can remember with any clarity is bonjour, it translates to good morning or hello in English. Why am I persevering with this book notion if I can’t write properly? Guess I’ll stick to blogging, no one cares too much if I get it all wrong. Ha!Ha!

Stumbled upon this article by Australian writer Ian Irvine while browsing and I think it’s certainly worth a good read. Oops! Don’t cry before you reach the end like I did. Snipped a bit from the page to add to this post and a link.

The image used on my page is amazing but I don’t know who the owner is to give credit. Images on this blog are sometimes found on the Internet and permission to post is sort so as not to infringe copyright. The artist who created image used on top of this page has now contacted me and I am delighted to give credit and a link which applies to this lovely picture.

I’ve toyed with the idea of a co-author scenario, just not sure how this would work in practice? If you are interested this project my email address is on Vef contact page. Recently looked up the word clanger and it means a bad or embarrassing mistake. Okay so I can’t see clearly enough to proof read this text any further. BooHoo! It’s been another sleepless night and I’m needing a frightfully long snooze.

Creative writing by Michelle Voynet

Image © Alaya Gadeh and Elizabeth May


Designs on life: Gems of wisdom


I’m always looking for inspiration while frantically writing on this blog. These gems of wisdom often jump into my head whilst I do.

Designs on life
Be the architect of your moment
plant a garden in your imagination
let flowers and trees rise above the rooftops
then rearrange the houses in your neighborhood
choose a vibrant new door colour or change the ring of your doorbell
become the architect of your moment.

Both while and whilst have been in the language for a very long time. While was in use in Old English; whilst is a Middle English development of while. As conjunctions they are interchangeable in meaning, but whilst has not survived in standard American English. To the American ear whilst sounds quaint. Some British and Canadian speakers think it sounds literary or old-fashioned, but many British speakers prefer it to while.

So I’ll see you in a while. Ha!Ha!

Bye, Vef (Gender equality in words)


Why does Google punish?


I’m angry because doctor Google is making my blogging life a misery. It seems the more I try to do the right thing and improve this WP blog, Google punishes.

I’ll give you an example. Recently I learned that my pictures are titled incorrectly or not given word titles at all. So like a good little bee I decided to get busy and fix them with descriptive titles and replace the old ones. Just using the same images with new titles. Every time I did this my blog slides down a long way in Google searches. Oh no! Not just a few places but more like a couple of pages.

That’s one example and here’s another. I’ve gone over all my old posts to tidy them up with fresh text and checking for broken links. So being fastidious I also checked grammar and punctuation just to get it right. Oops! Same thing again – blog drops in Google search.

What am I supposed to do? Making changes to Vef’s blog seems to be a no-no with Google. Yet I would have thought the opposite. I’d like to attract visitors and having appealing pages is one way of doing this. Perhaps not?

Bing and Yahoo have always had way better search results for this blog. So what’s the deal with Google? Why does Google continue to punish good behaviour?

I really should be getting on with the job of writing nice things about gender equality and finding pictures to post. However I’m spending hours and hours every day struggling with these annoying Google issues. Incidentally, most of the images used on this blog are taken from the Internet and where possible credit is given to author. I try to avoid infringing anyone’s copyright.

Just typed my blog name twice in quick succession because Google says it likes it this way. Keywords and all that stuff. Ha!Ha!

Okay! I get the hint. Google hates my blog. Yes! I’m upset.

Writing by Vef 🙂

Need help? Click on link: Google ranking factors


Be the author of your own gender story


Dear Reader,
I’m writing a book about a word that came entirely from my own thoughts. Vef is a global community project only just beginning. I’m a self-taught writer and this assignment is not easy but I’ll keep trying until success comes my way. Gender equality is possible only when social attitudes toward girls improve and they are given same consideration as boys. Does this mean social harmony?

Vef is a word that can and should (in my opinion) replace woman in English language because it is (to me) proper speech. Venus flower (Vef) is not about segregation instead she brings us closer together. So I say let’s embrace this word and we can be the authors of our own (gender) story.

Over the coming months I’ll get myself busy and read scholarly articles to find out what I can learn. Unfortunately the word (woman) is used often in the text, so I need to ignore it when reading. AND THIS IS MY ARGUMENT. Can’t have equality if the words themselves are not equal in our language.

I have a thirst for knowledge and not a lot of time remaining.

You are the author of your own life. You can write stories that say who you are. An author is broadly defined as “the person who originated or gave existence to anything” whose authorship determines responsibility for what was created. If you want something to change then you need to change the way you tell your story.

Creative writing by, Michelle Voynet


My reason and spirit


I’ve put various writings together here to reflect on my purpose. Actually I’m struggling with a few things and trying to put a positive outlook on life.

Vef belongs
Give me a reason to live and I will survive.
Do you know?
I think we like to complicate things when it is really quite simple.
We all need a sense of belonging.
Find what it is that makes you happy and who it is that gives you a smile and you’re set for life.

Vef is a free spirit
Free spirit n: 1. a person with a highly individual or unique attitude, lifestyle, or imagination; nonconformist 2. a person who lives according to her or his wishes and beliefs, unconstrained by society’s conventions.

Vef is an act of love
“Don’t expect to get anything back, don’t expect recognition for your efforts, don’t expect your genius to be discovered or your love is understood. Act because you need to act.”

Paulo Coelho

I’m at the edge of a cliff
Lying , quietly, on the floor
Feeling the thorns like needles in the palms of my hands
Why do I need your roses?
Why do I need your precious letters of eternal love?
I will get there all by myself
I never thought you could despise me
Everything’s so clear, still I refuse to see
Now I’m with open arms at the edge of the cliff
Just waiting for the wind to fly away
Sitting quietly on the floor
Drawing symbols with the blood from my hands
What do I need your roses for?
Just take me out of here and drive far away
Yes, I will get there all by myself.

.. and that’s a promise. Vef

Song lyrics: Aenima